Dating is hard, y’all. And online dating isn’t much better either. I’m on several sites and apps now, and I still can’t find the perfect guy. And if I do find a great guy, there’s always one factor that is practically a deal-breaker. But I’m trying to keep an open mind. Plus, most of them want kids, and I really can’t do that. I know what I posted a few months ago was the opposite of that, but I had wanted them with Jace, and now I don’t want them anymore. Not after that heartbreak. I figure, I’d rather regret not having them in 10 years and adopt one, than regret having them and resent them for their whole lives. I feel that’s fair.
With online dating, you usually get to read a profile on the person and see if you have things in common. You don’t have to base it solely on physical looks. Yet, it happens all the time. People won’t even respond to a message from someone they don’t think is super über hot. A simple, “I’m not interested, but thank you.” would suffice. But no, people just don’t care enough about others to do that. I’m guilty of it myself, but recently, I’ve been trying to change that. And I’m giving guys a chance who aren’t perfect, or ones who I’m not immediately attracted to. I know no one is perfect, but there are some things that I just don’t want to have in my life ever again. And there are certain things that I’m making requirements. Because I’m tired of settling.
I’m not a bag of chips, and I shouldn’t settle. I need to find someone who will actually tolerate me for longer than a few months, so they can see how awesome I am. Someone who meets my requirements and who doesn’t make me compromise too much on my desires. Someone who will love me for me. And someone whom I love without him having to change. Looking for a unicorn here, people. Anyone seen one?